In these complicated times of online dating platforms, it has become quite normal for people to swipe carelessly through countless profile pictures, judging quickly the book by its cover; so we’ve asked ourselves, what makes a person more attractive to others?
Although you can’t tell much about a person from her profile picture, your first judgement will be based purely on physical appearance. And even if you aren’t in the online dating scene, the first impression we have when meeting someone is always superficial and mostly based on looks. The good news is that you don’t have to look like Gisele Bündchen, studies show that there are a few things you can do to make you instantly more attractive to a potential partner, conscious or subconsciously.
So let’s have a look at what science tells us about how to be more attractive.
We’ve all heard about body language, but what does it mean in the case of a photo? Hunching your shoulders, crossing your arms or just curling inward gives the impression of a closed-off and non-confident person. On the contrary, a picture with open arms or holding them up shows an expansive person and will automatically make you more attractive to others.
Happiness and pride
This point is a bit tricky. An experiment showed that men find more attractive women who look happy, and they rate less attractive, women who demonstrate to be proud, on the other hand, women are more attracted to men who look proud and find less attractive men who seem too happy.
It turns out that the famous “I need my beauty sleep” was not just a silly excuse our grandmothers made up to disappear into their rooms for a few hours. Researchers showed to participants of a study, pictures of people who had slept for at least eight hours, and pictures of others who hadn’t slept in 31 hours. The ones who hadn’t slept were rated as less attractive than the other group. They also said these people looked sadder and less healthy. So let’s hit the sack to seem more attractive and happier.
Studies show that men see stressed-out women as being less attractive. Science explains that high levels of cortisol, the stress hormone, are responsible for making us less desirable to men.
Besides the points above, there are a few personality traits that make you more attractive and improve any relationship, even the one you have with yourself.
Participants in a study had to rate people according to the description they received; intelligent/unintelligent, honest/dishonest, dependent/independent. The ones which were described as honest were perceived as more attractive by all participants. So girls, no more lying about your age, it is not only silly but also unattractive!
No matter how good looking people are, if they aren’t funny, chances are not many will be attracted to them. Whether you are a woman or a man, great sense of humour makes you more attractive and also very sexy.
Being helpful makes you more attractive according to an experiment made during a six-week course. The students rated their colleagues at the beginning of the course and again at the end. Those who were always ready to help were rated more attractive than others who were lazy, even if they hadn’t scored high at the beginning.
Of course, the attraction is only the first step, but it can lead to a happy and successful love life. “All you need is love” sang the Beatles, and even today, what we all want deep inside is to love and to be loved.