Wedding etiquette


Weddings are by far my favorite kind of parties, the bride and groom are beaming with happiness and everyone’s in a great mood and beautifully dressed, ready to have a great time. But what are the unwritten rules to be a good wedding guest?


First of all, you must reply confirming your presence. Most wedding invitations come with a proper RSVP card ready for you to answer, and already stamped by your host, you will only need to tick whether you’re going or not and drop it at the post office. Never ever show up at a wedding without having confirmed before, and do not leave it to the last day, this doesn’t show much consideration towards your host who’s been waiting for your answer in order to make the seating plan arrangements and so on.

2-  The wedding gift

Send your wedding gift with a nice card in advance. Do not take your present with you to the wedding.

3- The Crying 

If you are a woman, you will probably feel emotional and want to cry during the ceremony…Don’t! A little tear is okay, but please do control yourself as you don’t want to ruin your makeup and you don’t want to make a scene and have people staring at you for the wrong reason.

4- The reading

If you were asked to make any of the readings during the ceremony, stick to the original plan. Do not get carried away by emotion, do not improvise. Just do what is expected of you and go back to your seat.

5- The booze

At the reception before dinner, you will be served some canapés and probably, a lot of champagne. Be careful, this is the moment when people tend to drink a few glasses to relax and get into the party mood but forget they are on an empty stomach (especially the girls who’ve been fasting for days to get into their dresses and look fabulous!), so do not overdo it if you want to be able to find your table.

6- The seating plan

When looking for your table for dinner, it's very common - and disappointing-  to find out that your table neighbor is not exactly the best company, but do not dare to change the seating arrangements, you will have to be brave and accept the challenge of making small talk to the dullest and almost deaf great-uncle of the bride. 

7- The speeches

During dinner, you will have several speeches, from the father of the bride, the best-men and so on, some of them may be long and not always will they be funny.

Your job, as the perfect guest, is to laugh and clap. That’s it. No making funny faces, rolling eyes or talking to your neighbor during the speeches. If you have to wee, well, that is not the moment! I'm sorry to say, but you will have to wait after the speeches are over to get up from your table. Even if you’re desperate! Think of the Empire and carry on.

8- The dancing

Now is the moment everyone has been waiting for! Let loose your inner dancing queen and have fun. Dance like nobody’s watching, because quite frankly my dear, at this point of the wedding, after all that champagne, nobody is! But remember you’re not the star this night, don’t overdo it and let the bride shine!

9- The love

Many people get inspired by the newlyweds’ love and happiness and feel like finding their own better half at the wedding party. If you are one of those, try to be discreet and behave because there will always be someone ready to catch you in the most embarrassing situation and make sure everyone knows about it.

Have fun!

Christine Schönburg


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